1. Reassure Your Child
Children want to hear that everything is going to work out “alright.” They need to hear that their parents have a plan, and that plan has things that are important to the child as part of it. More specifically, you need to reassure your child that their school, friends, play-dates, sports activities, and other favorite things to do will all remain the same. The only thing that will be different is that their parents will be living in two different homes, and they will spend part of each week with each parent.
2. Encourage Your Child to Talk
The best way to encourage your child to talk is to show him or her empathy and respect when they do try to talk. The positive experience of being “listened to” and “understood” by parents is probably the single most important element in encouraging further talk. Giving your child the experience of receiving active and empathetic listening is even more important, ultimately, than providing a problem-solving experience. Make your child feel comfortable about coming to you with problems first; try to jump in and solve them a little later. Continue reading